I know where mine come from. They come from my childhood. Lets get real, open and vulnerable here for a moment. Some of you may know this but most of you probably dont. I loved my Dad with all my heart. But I also hated my Dad. He used his words and his fists to make a point. I was afraid of him. I trusted him. I believed every word he said to me. My Dad was an amazing man with a big heart but he just didn't know how to show it. He didn't know how to show real love. I believe now that it made him uncomfortable. And guess what, it came from HIS limiting beliefs. I wish he was still alive so I could ask him what those beliefs were. I lost him right at the time when we were really starting to get along, starting to understand each other and starting to heal from our mistakes.
If I think back to when I was younger, still a child, maybe 8 or 9 years old, i can hear that tape play over and over in my head. "You will never amount to anything". Imagine telling a child this. More than once. Alot actually. You begin to believe this. If someone who loves you, helped bring you into this world and knows you better than anyone, is saying this to you, then it must be true. Right? Wrong! With things that I have learned only recently, in fact, I know that my Dad didnt mean that, or anything else negative that he would say or do to me. He was hurting from things he wasnt able to share. Or maybe he didnt even really know why himself. And so I forgive him.
Only a few days before he died - he didnt know he was going to die which is the bizarre thing - he took me in his arms and cried. I rarely saw him cry. He said, "Susie, i know I was hard on you and your sister, more than I ever should have been and you both didnt deserve it. I will do my best to make it up to you with Taylor, to treat her the way I should have treated you, To love her and encourage her and fix all my mistakes that I made with you." 3 days later he was gone.
I have lived many many years believing these things that were instilled into my brain, they are my subconscious that tells me I cant do something, that I am too fat, I am not pretty enough,I am not a good mother, daughter, wife, friend, leader, or business person. But the truth is, your brain doesnt know the difference between the truth and a lie so start being honest with your brain and yourself. You are amazing, and worth it, deserving and enough, you are inspiring and awesome and that is all that matters. Stop saying you cant afford it, cant do it, cant have it because then it will be true.
Do you worry what other people think of you? Well... STOP IT!! Stop it right now. People will think of you however they want, they will judge your decisions and talk behind your back, no matter how nice you are. And guess what? That is their shit, not yours so dont take that on.
Did you have a rough childhood? An abusive relationship? A bad friend or family member who always put you down? None of those situations should ever define you. You are not those situations. You are you and you are ENOUGH! Good bye to those limiting beliefs.
