All of my life I have never felt good enough. I have always done my best to please others... my friends... my family.... Doing what I thought they wanted or what they thought was best for me and always compromising my own wants and needs. I always felt like I was dependent on others and I couldn't make my own decision until I consulted with others first. Like, as if my decision would upset someone and never really worrying about how I would feel. Why do we do that? Put everyone else above ourselves? Its so harmful and toxic. Whenever I was about to make a decision, I would always think of what others would think of what I wanted to do, say, etc and most times i was so nervous that I would just not follow thru with what i wanted to do, my wants, my dreams..... So sad when I think back to those times.
I used to be a very negative person. I'm sure it was because of the programming I endured when i was a child, constantly being told I was never good enough, try harder, you will never amount to anything. After awhile, you just start believing those lies. When I was in the heart of my negativity, i seemed to have a lot of friends... Maybe its because negative breeds negative. Were they good friends to me? That's a good question that I still ask myself once in awhile. I have now created a positive life for myself and it seems like there are far less friends in my life now. Maybe that's because some of them were also negative and I chose to move on from them because it just brought me back down. Or maybe now that I am living such a positive life and have a grateful heart, they either didn't know how to handle that or relate to it, or I wasn't able to be controlled anymore and so they moved on. No matter what the reasons, I am still a good person.
Its taken me alot of work and effort to come to realize that I am ME and I am ok. What I do, and the decisions I make should be for myself and my families greater good... Not for anyone else. No matter what you do, people will judge you, talk bad about you.... I have come to realize that its usually because they are either jealous of your happiness, or see in you what they are missing in themselves and it makes them ungrateful. You cant control that. You need to think only of what matters and what you can control.
Never be afraid to speak your mind, stand up for yourself, follow your dreams, no matter how out of reach they may seem in the moment. As long as you are coming from a positive place in your heart, that is all that matters. You will create your reality.
I have never been so happy in my life as I am right now. I have found my purpose in life. I have friends in my life who love and accept me for me, who ask ME for advice, who share their successes and failures with me, who never try to compete with me. Some of these friends I have had for ever and some are new ones that have recently entered my life. I am grateful for all of them. Sometimes you make mistakes and upset others.... Apologize and the good ones will stay.
You attract who you are. You are what you believe yourself to be. To be great you have to believe that you are great! I'm no longer ashamed of myself and I believe that I deserve the happiness that I have found. It took me a really long time to feel that way and I refuse to go back to my old way of thinking. I am not the same person I was 5 years ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago....... Im not perfect. Far from it actually. But I need to love myself in this moment and continue to work on myself, get better, love myself more. I was brave and I took a step out of my comfort zone and worked on myself, my mind, my beliefs around myself and I am so grateful. Now I encourage YOU to be brave........ Are you in an unhappy relationship? Hate your job? Dont love yourself? Do something about it. Without change, everything will remain the same........ As they say, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.
Take small steps. Say hi to a stranger. dance in the rain. Go for a walk. Buy someone a coffee. Read a self help book. Grasp an opportunity that is handed to you... Just take 1 small step forward and soon you will be running forward.
LET ME SEE HOW BIG YOUR BRAVE IS!!!
Click on the link and have a listen..... This song inspires me everytime I hear it!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUQsqBqxoR4
YES, I am a network marketer. I have chosen this as my career and have been doing it for just over a year... at first i was leery to tell people this because of the stigma so many people have with network marketing even though most people do this every single day, but the difference is, I get paid for it.
So this is what my husband and I do for a living, along with his day job, which we plan to retire him from in the next 2 years. YES, i want to share this opportunity with people in my life that I care about. NO i am not trying to recruit and harass you! I am excited because I see how its changing peoples lives who we personally know and I want to share this with you too, because I love and care about you! We have someone on our team, that in 3 short months, is almost at the point of getting rid of her disability cheques because she makes more than they pay her!! How amazing is that?! Some of my friends and/or family struggle financially, living pay cheque to pay cheque and I know this could help them. Some are working 2 and 3 jobs to make ends meet and miss out on their kids events. Some make enough money but they hate their jobs, despise Mondays and don't get to spend as much time with their families. Some struggle with skin conditions such as eczema, adult acne, scars, etc that can cause them self esteem issues and I want them to try this product to see if it can help them. I'm not trying to sell them something so that I can make money... I genuinely want to help them! Some dont need the money and they have "perfect" skin, but they work 80 hour work weeks and have no time for anything else, maybe they are lonely and dont have alot of friends, so i believe that this positive community (NO its not a cult!!) would be a benefit for them. Or perhaps I JUST simply want to have them as a business partner because i genuinely love and care for them and think it would be amazing to work together while creating beautiful lives for each other and others. Its not what is in it for ME... not for one second. It is what is in it for OTHERS!
YES, absolutely there are bad network marketing companies and there are bad network marketers....... But there are also bad doctors, bad lawyers, bad retail sales people, bad administrative assistants, bad servers, bad corporate companies, bad small businesses.....You get the point....there is bad everywhere if you look for it. But there is also good..... and GREAT! You will always find what you look for.
If I had a regular job and there was an opening at my work that I thought you would be interested in, you wouldn't be offended if I told you about it, would you? You wouldn't feel uncomfortable. So why are you offended or annoyed when I just want to share an opportunity with you? No one said you had to join me. But wouldnt it be ok to just HEAR what is it your saying no to, that your not interested in.... It may be for you and it may not and that is OK! All I want to do is share something with you and allow you to make that decision. If your not interested after that, I wouldnt mention it again, we would still be friends and I would still care about you. We will still hang out. If you didnt like the job opening I told you about, would you feel like you had to avoid me or think differently of me? NO! SO why would this be any different? Its the same thing. Network Marking is not for everyone and that is ok. It never used to be for me either. But after years and years of working 40hrs a week making someone else money, never getting any farther ahead, being envious of others who got to take 2-3 vacations a year, while it took me 3 years just to save for 1, struggling to make my mortgage payment, I made the decision to just listen because I trusted the person who wanted to share it with me. All she wanted me to do was listen... Did, i at first, think.... OMG, not her!! why is she doing this? Now ill have to stop talking to her cause she will bother me all the time about this.... yes of course I did... because of the stigma that is attached to network marketing..... But i took the time to listen and make my own decision. She said she was going with our without me but wanted to tell me about it first because she cared about us........
One year is all it took to make enough money per month to walk away from a job if i had of had one.. ONE YEAR! It would have happened faster but we had suffered a loss in the family and we took some time for ourselves. But seriously... one year.... that year is going to pass by anyways!
And i must mention, even if I didn't make 1 penny, the personal growth I have experienced in this past year is invaluable and has made me a better person. I have left my comfort zone, my comfy little bubble of safety, and took 1 step out at first, then a giant leap and I feel amazing!
As I mentioned, this isnt for everyone. But how do you know its not for you if you dont be open minded and just listen. It could change your life! Why not YOU? You may not be interested in our opportunity (if you have heard about it properly and made the educated choice) but that doesn't mean you wont be interested in another one that comes along. Opportunities are everywhere, you just have to reach out and grab one. Just dont insult something you know nothing about. I dont tell you your job or career is stupid, a pyramid and a scam so dont tell me that mine is.
