Be Brave

All of my life I have never felt good enough. I have always done my best to please others... my friends... my family.... Doing what I thought they wanted or what they thought was best for me and always compromising my own wants and needs. I always felt like I was dependent on others and I couldn't make my own decision until I consulted with others first. Like, as if my decision would upset someone and never really worrying about how I would feel. Why do we do that? Put everyone else above ourselves? Its so harmful and toxic. Whenever I was about to make a decision, I would always think of what others would think of what I wanted to do, say, etc and most times i was so nervous that I would just not follow thru with what i wanted to do, my wants, my dreams..... So sad when I think back to those times.



I used to be a very negative person. I'm sure it was because of the programming I endured when i was a child, constantly being told I was never good enough, try harder, you will never amount to anything. After awhile, you just start believing those lies. When I was in the heart of my negativity, i seemed to have a lot of friends... Maybe its because negative breeds negative. Were they good friends to me? That's a good question that I still ask myself once in awhile. I have now created a positive life for myself and it seems like there are far less friends in my life now. Maybe that's because some of them were also negative and I chose to move on from them because it just brought me back down. Or maybe now that I am living such a positive life and have a grateful heart, they either didn't know how to handle that or relate to it, or I wasn't able to be controlled anymore and so they moved on. No matter what the                                                                           reasons, I am still a good person.

Its taken me alot of work and effort to come to realize that I am ME and I am ok. What I do, and the decisions I make should be for myself and my families greater good... Not for anyone else. No matter what you do, people will judge you, talk bad about you.... I have come to realize that its usually because they are either jealous of your happiness, or see in you what they are missing in themselves and it makes them ungrateful. You cant control that. You need to think only of what matters and what you can control. 

Never be afraid to speak your mind, stand up for yourself, follow your dreams, no matter how out of reach they may seem in the moment. As long as you are coming from a positive place in your heart, that is all that matters. You will create your reality.

I have never been so happy in my life as I am right now. I have found my purpose in life. I have  friends in my life who love and accept me for me, who ask ME for advice, who share their successes and failures with me, who never try to compete with me. Some of these friends I have had for ever and some are new ones that have recently entered my life. I am grateful for all of them. Sometimes you make mistakes and upset others.... Apologize and the good ones will stay.

You attract who you are. You are what you believe yourself to be. To be great you have to believe that you are great! I'm no longer ashamed of myself and I believe that I deserve the happiness that I have found. It took me a really long time to feel that way and I refuse to go back to my old way of thinking. I am not the same person I was 5 years ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago....... Im not perfect. Far from it actually. But I need to love myself in this moment and continue to work on myself, get better, love myself more. I was brave and I took a step out of my comfort zone and worked on myself, my mind, my beliefs around myself and I am so grateful. Now I encourage YOU to be brave........ Are you in an unhappy relationship? Hate your job? Dont love yourself? Do something about it. Without change, everything will remain the same........  As they say, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.

Take small steps. Say hi to a stranger. dance in the rain. Go for a walk. Buy someone a coffee. Read a self help book. Grasp an opportunity that is handed to you... Just take 1 small step forward and soon you will be running forward. 

LET ME SEE HOW BIG YOUR BRAVE IS!!!

Click on the link and have a listen..... This song inspires me everytime I hear it!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUQsqBqxoR4